When we ran across Kevin’s You Tube videos we knew we had to have him on the show! Kevin’s views as a young African American male, who was once married and the father of sons, is one that is very deep and enlightened. Kevin does not make any excuses for the problem in our community when it comes to #BlackLove. His main viewers are women and he answers questions from them about the men in their lives. We love this concept because Kevin gives us a reason to STOP giving “assumed advice” to our girlfriends about why men to this or that. Below is the Twitterview with Kevin held Friday, November 19th! Again, thanks Kevin so much for your participation & #WeSaluteYou sir =)
Q: Any advice?
A: First you must learn to serve God and then your partner. If you can respect God, it’s easy to respect your partner.
Q: Ok, so you seem to have taken the “spirituality” approach. Is being on the same page spiritually important, equally yoked?
A: Of course! Our spirituality affects every aspect of our lives. To ignore It is futile.
Q: Everyone is not on the same page. How do we get there as a couple?
A: Most likely if you are not on the same page, you can’t make each other get on the same page. So, yall don’t need to be together. It’s a personal process that should be taken care of before you contemplate entering a serious relationship.
Q: How do you properly tackle the issue without offending the other person’s belief’s or level of understanding before entering?
A: Simply asking then and letting them know where you stand. There’s no way around it. Either they’ll accept it or be offended.
Q: Do you feel black people in general have lost touch with God? If so, how do we get back to where we need to be?
A: 1st we must throw out everything we’ve been taught and take a minute to close our Bibles. Then get rid of the same ol’ people and surround ourselves with people who are different and more accomplished than we are. And find and define God for ourselves and don’t let anyone tell us otherwise.
Q: Why is that important in our relationships?
A: Because finding God means finding ourselves so we can be a better commodity to the relationship as a whole.
Q: So, do you feel as though church and our parents have not properly guided us? If so, in what ways?
A: It is obvious the church and our parents haven’t done us justice. Look around. Now we must take it upon ourselves to uplift us.
Kevin then ended the “Twitterview” with an original quote: “Don’t lie to you. God is Love.”
**Below will be links to Kevin’s: You Tube, Book Purchase, & Twitter**
Kevin describes his book, “Leave the Fairy Tales up to Disney”: The Reality of Dating, as: “A breath of fresh air to relationships in ways your parents and church has never shown you.”